Behind the Ceremony


Funeral or Memorial?


Families often find it hard to concentrate and make decisions just after their loss. It can be a time of great sadness, shock and confusion and close family may feel very vulnerable. I always tell families there are no rules in terms of the ceremony and that there is no need to rush. 


My role as a funeral specialist allows you maximum flexibility and depending on the circumstances, you have many choices of venue including a wide variety of crematorium chapels, free standing chapels, parklands, gardens, backyards, beaches etc. Just ask your funeral director about the possibilities if you would like something less traditional.


Generally, a funeral service has the coffin or casket present followed by cremation or burial, and a memorial service is one that is conducted after cremation or burial. Often memorials include your loved one's ashes presented in a special urn which may or may not be scattered in a location pertinent to the deceased. 


What to do


I often receive calls directly from family members if their loved one is in palliative care. I can visit your loved one in person to discuss their wishes, offer pastoral care if required or meet with family well before the funeral service. One family employed me 12 months prior to the funeral ceremony to discuss their options. When their much loved husband and father died, things were organised and the process was a lot less stressful for everyone.


If the death is unexpected and my services are sought by a family, or recommended by a funeral home, I will come and see the family to arrange the funeral ceremony. You may also ask your funeral director to call me on your behalf to check on my availability. Unfortunately it can happen that I may not be informed of your request to have me conduct the service so it is safest to call me directly on 0410 654136.


There are some excellent funeral arrangers and funeral homes out there who will go above and beyond, but if you don't know where to start feel free to call me.


  • DVD slideshows and Order of Service cards are also available on request.